Anger management
Support to understand when and why anger rises, and to learn healthier ways of expressing it.
What is it?
Anger is a natural and often protective feeling that shows up when we sense our boundaries are crossed or we have been treated unfairly. The problem is not anger itself, but sometimes how often, how intensely and in what way it comes out.
Feeling regret, guilt or shame after an outburst, and seeing relationships or work suffer, is very common. Underneath anger there is often hurt, anxiety, exhaustion or needs that have gone unspoken for a long time.
Common signs
- Reacting far more strongly than a situation calls for
- Shouting, hurtful words or breaking things
- Feeling you lose control in the moment
- Regret and guilt afterwards
- Recurring tension in close relationships or at work
- Holding anger in until it shows up as tension or headaches
These signs alone do not mean a diagnosis; an assessment takes place in an in person or online session.
How can therapy help?
With Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) we look at the situations that trigger anger, the thoughts running through your mind in that moment and the first signals in your body. This makes options visible before anger peaks, such as pausing to breathe, stepping away or stating your need more clearly.
Psychodynamic (psychoanalytically informed) therapy focuses on how anger connects to past experiences, relationship patterns and feelings that have been pushed aside. Together, these approaches can help you build a healthier relationship with anger without denying it.
Approaches I use in this area
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)
A structured approach that looks at the link between thoughts, feelings and behaviour and works on changing unhelpful cycles.
Read more02Psychodynamic (psychoanalytically informed) therapy
An approach that explores how past experiences, relationship patterns and feelings outside our awareness shape the present.
Read moreWhen is extra support needed?
If anger reaches the point of harming yourself or someone else, or if there is a risk of violence at home, this should not wait. If there is immediate danger, call 112. If anger comes with strong mood swings, sleeplessness or substance use, a psychiatric assessment may also be recommended, and I can refer you when needed.
Frequently asked questions
Is getting angry a bad thing?
No. Anger is a natural feeling everyone has. The aim is not to stop feeling it, but to notice and express it without harming yourself or others.
How many sessions does anger management take?
It varies. Some people develop clear awareness within a few months, while others need a longer process. We review progress together at regular intervals.
Can my partner or family join the sessions?
Anger often plays out within relationships. If it is appropriate and helpful, couple or family sessions can be planned alongside individual work.
Every process is personal. Therapy does not guarantee a specific outcome, but it offers a safe space for change.
Related areas of work
- Relationship issues and couples therapyIndividual or couples sessions on communication, trust and recurring conflict.
- Personality patterns and personality disordersLong term work to understand and change recurring, painful patterns in relationships, emotions and sense of self.
- Self esteem and self worthWorking together to understand and strengthen how you see yourself, your inner critic and your sense of worth.
Whenever you feel ready, I am here
Get in touch with any questions or to book a session. You will usually hear back on the same day.