Relationship issues and couples therapy
Individual or couples sessions on communication, trust and recurring conflict.
What is it?
Relationships are among the most meaningful parts of our lives, and also among the hardest. Repeated arguments, feeling unheard, damaged trust or slowly drifting apart can wear both people down. Sometimes the difficulty is not in one relationship but shows up as a pattern across different relationships.
This work can be done individually or as a couple. In individual sessions we look at the way you relate to others; in couples sessions we create a space where two people can hear each other better. The aim is not to decide who is right, but to understand the relationship together.
Common signs
- Arguing about the same things again and again
- Feeling misunderstood when you talk, or choosing to stay silent
- Damaged trust, jealousy or a sense of distance
- Struggling with transitions such as marriage, parenthood or moving
- Similar problems repeating across relationships
- Difficulty with closeness or setting boundaries
These signs alone do not mean a diagnosis; an assessment takes place in an in person or online session.
How can therapy help?
Work based on Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) can focus on noticing the thoughts and reactions that come up during conflict, strengthening communication skills and solving problems together. Concrete, everyday steps are an important part of this process.
A psychodynamic (psychoanalytically informed) perspective helps to understand how repeating patterns in a relationship may connect to earlier attachment experiences and unmet needs. In couples sessions, making sure both people feel safe is the priority, and individual sessions can be planned when helpful.
Approaches I use in this area
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)
A structured approach that looks at the link between thoughts, feelings and behaviour and works on changing unhelpful cycles.
Read more02Psychodynamic (psychoanalytically informed) therapy
An approach that explores how past experiences, relationship patterns and feelings outside our awareness shape the present.
Read moreWhen is extra support needed?
If there is physical, emotional or financial abuse in the relationship, couples therapy may not be the right first step, and your own safety comes first. If you are in immediate danger, call 112. If relationship difficulties come with severe depression or anxiety, I will refer you to a psychiatrist when needed.
Frequently asked questions
What if my partner does not want to come?
You can work on relationship issues individually too. Understanding your own reactions and patterns can also change the dynamics of the relationship.
Will couples therapy save our relationship?
Couples therapy does not guarantee a particular outcome. Its aim is to help two people see their relationship more clearly and make the right decision for themselves. That may mean staying together, or it may mean parting.
Will you take sides?
No. In couples sessions my aim is to listen to both of you and to understand the relationship as a whole.
Every process is personal. Therapy does not guarantee a specific outcome, but it offers a safe space for change.
Related areas of work
- Personality patterns and personality disordersLong term work to understand and change recurring, painful patterns in relationships, emotions and sense of self.
- Self esteem and self worthWorking together to understand and strengthen how you see yourself, your inner critic and your sense of worth.
- Anger managementSupport to understand when and why anger rises, and to learn healthier ways of expressing it.
Whenever you feel ready, I am here
Get in touch with any questions or to book a session. You will usually hear back on the same day.